You're A Bit Boring

Wednesday, May 7, 2014
The other day whilst I was hanging washing out outside, as you do, Ezra came out and asked me to come in and play legos (duplo) with him. I told him that I was sorry but I had to hang the washing out. To which he replied, 'it's a bit boring', and I giggled, I don't know where he picked that phrase up, but it was pretty funny to hear him say it. 'I know', I answered, 'I wish I didn't have to'. And then he piped up again with, "Mum, YOU'RE a bit boring'. To which I laughed and continued on with my household chores.

It wasn't until later that night when there was finally some peace and quiet that I remembered our funny little conversation. And I know that he probably didn't mean anything by it, because he's two and a half, and two and a half year olds often say wild and wacky things, or just copy things they've heard on tv. Then again sometimes two and a half year olds can be more insightful than we give them credit for. But, for me, it was probably something that I needed to hear. It struck a bit of a chord and when I reflected on the week that I had with the kids, I realised just how boring I was.

Cleaning, looking at my phone, cooking, washing dishes, getting frustrated at kids, looking at Instagram, putting clothes away, texting someone, googling something, playing duplo (without enthusiasm), telling him off, waiting on hold for half an hour on the phone, doing grocery shopping, reading some random article, wiping tables, putting kids to bed, looking at my phone...all serious, no fun for them. He was totally right, whether he actually meant it, or even knew what he said or not, he was right.

I was 'a bit BORING'. In fact, I was really fricken boring, and thats not me, thats never been me, so why was I so dull and disengaged?

I wonder if it was just the monotony of the daily tasks that had gotten into my head, or maybe it was because my mind was elsewhere, in internet world where I am planning, thinking, dreaming, learning. Who knows. But in the last weeks, or even months I felt myself being less present in the moment and just getting on with things. Not taking the time, the real time to invest, have fun, laugh, learn, play, invent, joke and all those really special moments that I will remember much more fondly that reading some random article on buzzfeed that someone shared on Facebook! I love the online world, but part of it drives me crazy how easily it sucks me in.

So, my goal and my intentions from now on are simply to not be boring. To go and play, to be sporadic, creative and engaged, to make cubby houses out of the couch cushions, to have crazy rock n roll dance parties, to dance our grumpies out, to run around the back yard and play chasey, and all those things that make my kids smile and laugh! I'm not suggesting that I should spend every minute entertaining them, because I think its important for them to play on their own too, but to take some time, everyday, to have fun, to laugh and to just enjoy each others company. Of course, the boring things still have to be done, I wish they didn't, but thats life,  but it is all about taking the time to have some fun! There are too many distractions, too many things vying  for my attention, and it is easy to get caught up in things that don't matter. And then I read stories like, THIS, about how Jacqui from Baby Boy Bakery recently lost her little boy in a tragic accident, and it totally and utterly breaks my heart. I don't even know her, but the thought of something like that puts EVERYTHING back into perspective.

So, if you were to do a little self-evaluation, where do you stand on the boring-------> ultra fun scale?
 And are you happy with where you're at?

 Because I totally wasn't, but these last few days have been sooo much better. For us all.

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BatMum certainly isn't boring!! 
Early morning pj walks and plays at the beach are much more fun than grumpy early mornings in front of the tellie! 

6 comments on "You're A Bit Boring"
  1. This is awesome, Karen. I just got done a really fun play time with Charlie, after folding laundry and watching What Not To Wear. He gave me this cheeky look that said "Chase me mum." What a great reminded. And now my phone is going back down again. Charlie has taken Settlers out of the cupboard. :(

  2. I think I actually just need to start putting my phone away. I'm the worst!

  3. I was really struggling to engage with my boy in play - just getting bored with the same old stuff and wondering off while he did his own thing or just not being present when I was with him. So I set myself a goal at the start of the year - to do more intentional play rather than just the incidental stuff (although the incidental is still important as is the letting him be). I wrote up a list of play themes for each month of 2014 and now use that as a jumping point for play and craft ideas with a big adventure or outing worked in there somewhere. I definitely feel more engaged now and he's picking up some really interesting new ideas about the world.

  4. I think about this often (as I sit at my computer, reading your blog post...) :) I am sooo guilty of spending too much time in "my world" and not enough time in my kiddos' world! All the time they'll say, "Mommy will you play with me?" And I respond with, "In a minute." Of course the minute turns into 15 minutes which turns into an hour. I try to be more purposeful in spending time with the kids - on their level. The floor, their bedrooms. Talking in funny voices and singing crazy songs. It's not always comfortable and I think of a million other things I could be doing, but I know it means the world to them!

  5. I don't think I'm that boring, but things will become a lot more fun when she can walk and we can go to playgrounds and do crafts and dress-ups.

    I read the story in the link and immediately got off the computer and went and played on the playmat with bub. Its so incredibly sad.

  6. It's hard sometimes - household tasks need to be completed. I think for me the challenge will be when number 2 arrives in October.