Thursday, November 29, 2012
What's in a Name
I think that choosing a name for a child is actually a really, really difficult thing to do. We had such a hard time, we ummed and ahhhed over it for almost my entire pregnancy. I had liked the name Ezra from the get go, but it didn't go over so well when we mentioned it to a few people, so it had me second guessing. We didn't officially decide that would be our baby's name until we were in the labour ward at the hospital.
We left the hospital a few days later with our bundle of screaming and pooping joy! Then as per usual we started going to all the normal appointments and getting out and about and people started asking us...
'oh, what's his name'
I reply 'Ezra' (obviously).
They would then furrow their brow and say 'Oh, that's an interesting name'
Followed by 'where did you get that from, or what made you choose that name?'
But, It isn't the questions themselves that get me all hot under the collar, it's the way that people ask them, their tone voice, and the look on their faces, as if to say 'wow, that kid is going to get beat up in school for that name' (some even come right out and say it)
I answer, 'Ezra is a person and a book in the Bible. (but that isn't why we chose it, it wasn't like we were set on naming our child out of a bible book. It just turned out that we liked the name, that's why we really chose it.'
Isn't that why most people choose names for their children, because they like it!! I know it is also because it's a family name, or it's sentimental, or it has a great meaning, but it is usually also because they like it. Do people questions parents who name their child David, why they chose that name?
Maybe I was just asking for this reaction when I named my child an apparently 'unusual' name.
Am I wrong to get irritated when people react this way?
I even had one lady at an op-shop tell me it was weird. Thank you 70 year old lady I don't know and don't particularly need the opinion of.
To be honest it is mostly the over 50's crowd that are the rudest about it, and mostly complete strangers. They go to lengths to make it sooooo obvious they don't like his name. Most younger folk have grown up with a neighbour called Rainbow, or a cousin called Jorjia (pronounced Georgia) so they don't seem to bat an eyelid and just say 'oh cool'.
I remember the kids that got picked on at my school, and they had names like David, Peter and Andrew. Kids at my school maybe made a quick joke or two about someone's unusual name, but that was never the reason for picking on someone. With our very multicultural society Ezra is not really going to stand out in a class scenario. But, Thankyou for your concern strangers in the supermarket!
So, the point of this...
Keep your opinions to yourself, I don't care if you don't like my child's name, I chose it, it is now his name, so as my Mum always said, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. You can gasp at his name behind my back, or tell your friends you don't like it, but I don't need to know what you think,
Feel free to vent in the comment section, I know you want to!!